How to live in peace with parents ? not only the great russian writer turgenev was interested in the question of " father and sons ", every new generation has clashed face to face over such a problem . the flash of the conflict usually takes place , when the children are teenagers ; to be exact , when they're about 13-16 years old . worrying about their baby's health , about what school , friends and clothes to choose , the majority of parents are really keen on looking after their kid from childhood on . but when the offspring grows up , they declare , that they wants to be independent . it is so very difficult for parents to understand , that their child has become adult and wants to make decisions him/himself , wants to get freedom , even if only partly . as for me , it infuriates me , to put it mildly , when my mummy comes straight to my room at eleven p.m. and says in a grumpy voice : " it's time to sleep ; honey ! ", or when she tries to make me put on an extra sweater or a cap , refusing to understand , that i'm able to solve such a problem myself . of course , parents wish all the best for their kids , they believe , that watching their children constantly can help avoid making mistakes ( drugs , alcohol , early sex and our mothers and fathers are sometimes not successful , when they scold us , for example , as being in infancy . they say : " shame on you ! you're sixteen and you still don't know what to be in the future , in what institute to pass the exams ,"- and endeavor to make decisions instead of us . children keep on trying to resist control and enforcement ; they often argue and quarrel with their parents . in some cases the teenagers take extreme measures - they leave their homes , or begin telling lies and doing everything contrary to what their parents say . well , how to find the compromise , how to have the right for freedom without making parents nervous ? to my mind , it's a mistake to be aggressive and to " fight for liberty "; the right way is to contract with the parents about new concessions day by day , but not without proving , that we , the children , are prudent and responsible . i decided to ask my friends and other people of my age , how they connect with their parents . so , i made a special test , which consisted of five simple questions , and asked my friends and the pupils of one of moscow's school . the result was really fine . перевод текста
